One day, on the way from client office to our office, i was talking with colleagues about international carreer. About how if you'll be sent for overseas assignment, while your spouse, and perhaps your kids, stay here.
Colleague A: That's not life. They must be unhappy if that's happened
Colleague B: You don't define happiness for other people. What it is for you doesn't mean similar with others
That conversation reminds me on my friend case. Her husband has to go overseas for study, around two years. Leaving his wife with his one year baby. With no income, since it was scholarship with very tight budget. One day, i have lunch with her and our other friend
Friend A: It must be hard for you. Why do you let him go?
Friend B: It's hard but i'll be fine. That's his dream and i don't want to stop him.
In other ocassions, i was talking with my husband about a novel, Twivortiare. According to him, the couples in that story always quarrel about trivial things.
Me: Every couple has their own deal, hunny. I don't think you treat your ex differently with the way you treat me (before marriage, of course). But she can't survive, right?
Husband: *nodding and continue washing*
I've been married for three years. I still remember during my wedding interview, i told the video crew that i wish me and hunny can live in the same city, soon. Up to now, it's still not happened, though, but we're fine. We've been trained well for that. And we still thank God for make other things easier for us.
There. The definition of happiness may be different from one person to another, from one couple to another. So i don't listen to others. They may judge but we won't care. We find happiness in each other laughs. Right, hun? ;p
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