Society class

I was a bit upset reading an IG post from a celeb - socialite
It was meant to be a prayer from a mother to her birthday boy, hoping that he will grow up as a down to earth person, hang out with anyone from any society class, and so on
A good one though, and i believe it was sincere. She got many positive feedback and compliment, too.
However, i had different opinion when i read her words, "Aah, so this is how you see yourself and the world. It is you who draw the line, how would you hope your kid will cross the line?".

High class, middle class, low society class.
There is no such thing, in my opinion.
Those just classes that people create to differentiate themselves from other. I would not think that way.

God creates people equally and they born with their own fate.
Ada yang mungkin secara ekonomi kekurangan tapi memiliki kelebihan di hal lain (e.g. jago masak, pinter, jago lukis, etc). Bisa juga kebalikannya.
Unfortunately, our society tends to see everything from economical perspective. Postingan artis tersebut membuat saya sadar, itu adalah pemikiran yang diwariskan turun temurun. 'Gak aneh kalau sulit untung dihilangkan sebagaimana layaknya tradisi.

If you tell your kid that he/she is luckier or richer, so they should help other; that will stay in their mind. I will not surprise if they grow up with superior feeling in front of others, and felt that they are almighty when help others. You got what you want though, he/she can hang out with anyone, but the sincerity is different.

Semasa sekolah dulu saya punya group belajar, anggotanya hampir setengah kelas. Temen-temen yang lebih menguasai satu mata pelajaran, saling berbagi. Pada akhirnya, bukan cuma ada satu guru di kelompok belajar kami, tapi beberapa. There where the balance is being created. Saya yang rada telmi di Biologi dan Geografi tertolong banget dengan trik dari teman saat menghafalkan lapisan bumi. Sementara saya yang lebih PD di hitung-hitungan, kebagian mengajar matematika atau teman2 sejenisnya. Ada juga teman yang tidak begitu kuat di mata pelajaran manapun, tapi itu bukan soal. Cause they are such a lovely friend, and their existence made us happy (they are fun, too, belajar pasti boring kalau gak ada mereka).

That is what i meant. Berbagi bukan melulu tentang finansial. And that should not the only thing you emphasize to your kid. Jokowi mungkin 'gak akan jadi presiden kalau bukan karena para relawan (regardless the social class of those volunteer).
Bahwa semua orang sebenarnya sama. You might have one thing but you lack on other thing. So there is no such thing as classes cause it will be so absurd. Think about it: in which class i would belong? Mideconomy OKbrain so-socookingskill  lackofashionsense highexposuretointernationalworld class. Is that kind of class exist?

If i have a kid, i will pray so he/she grow up as someone which the existence is meaningful to others. Could be a doctor who help cure the illness, a teacher who teach the kindness to the world, a businessman who open the work opportunity for others, comedian who spread the laughter, or housewives who give the warmth to the family. I hope he / she will sincerely love others and be lovable by others: friends, family, or just anyone. Seseorang yang setiap langkah dalam hidupnya selalu diridhai Allah.

Life is about take and give. And it will be more fun if you could see more. Going to different places, make friend with anyone, eat in whatever place you want. Do not let those not-exist society rule limit you.

Call me naive, overly sensitive, too hush, or irrational. We just have different opinion in seeing the world. That's it!

Lebaran, right here, right now

Lebaran tahun ini bagi saya cukup berbeda..

Tidak mudik

Tidak sungkem atau silaturahmi ke sanak famili (physically)

Tidak ziarah ke makam kakek nenek tercinta

Tidak ada ketupat bersama teman2nya (esp. Lidah!)

Tidak ada aroma sedap malam

Tidak ikut halal bihalal

Namun ada pelajaran berharga yang saya dapatkan di Ramadhan tahun ini...

.. summer ramadhan ..

Puasa 19 jam, maghrib jam 9.30pm, taraweh midnight, shubuh jam 3 pagi

Akhirnya lebih sering buka dirapel dengan sahur dan puasanya jadi 24 jam (atau minum susu habis taraweh untuk sahur)

Saya jadi membayangkan orang lain yang kurang beruntung yang puasanya mungkin lebih dari 24 jam, atau tidak bisa berbuka / sahur dengan layak

.. living as minority ..

Sepanjang hidup saya, hampir seluruh bulan puasa saya habiskan di Indonesia. Pernah pula ramadhan di Malaysia dan Mesir, tapi itu pun negara Muslim, jadi suasananya pun hampir mirip

Cape juga mesti ngejelasin atau menolak ajakan lunch bareng

Atau nyium aroma makanan saat lagi laper2nya :)

Saya jadi teringat bagaimana kita memperlakukan minoritas di negara kita. Sebagai mayoritas, kita meminta mereka menghormati ibadah kita, tapi sudahkah kita memberi perlakuan yang sama kala mereka beribadah? 

.. belief and persistency ..

Saya bukan muslim yang sempurna, tapi saya berusaha mempertahankan nilai-nilai yang saya anggap benar

Sebisa mungkin tidak meninggalkan yang wajib dan menjauhkan yang haram

Ini urusan saya dengan Tuhan, tidak ada kaitannya dengan hubungan sosial

Apapun itu, saya bersyukur masih diberi kesempatan menjalani Ramadhan tahun ini

Bisa merayakan Idul Fitri terlepas dari suasana yang berbeda, karena yang penting esensi kembali fitrah itu sendiri

Selamat Hari Raya Idul Fitri 1435H. Selamat berlebaran bersama keluarga dan orang-orang terdekat

Mohon maaf lahir bathin atas segala kesalahan

Semoga kita dipertemukan kembali dengan Ramadhan di tahun mendatang

Image diambil dari mataperisaham.com

The Colour of My Love

I'll paint my mood in shades of blue 
Paint my soul to be with you 
I'll sketch your lips in shaded tones 
Draw your mouth to my own 

I'll draw your arms around my waist 
Then all doubt I shall erase 
I'll paint the rain that softly lands on your wind blown hair 

I'll trace a hand to wipe out your tears 
A look to calm your fears 
A silhouette of dark and light 
While we hold each other oh so tight 

I'll paint a sun to warm your heart 
Swearing that we'll never part 
That's the color of my love 

I'll paint the truth 
Show how I feel 
Try to make you completely real 
I'll use a brush so light and fine 
To draw you close and make you mine 

I'll draw the years all passing by 
So much to learn so much to try 

And with this ring our lives will start 
Swearing that we'll never part 
I offer what you cannot buy 
Devoted love until we die

- I love you, more than yesterday. Through the good times and through bad. Till death do us apart-

Democrazy

German colleague: "Yesterday was the President election right, in Indonesia. Who won?"

Me: "Both candidates declared won based on Quick Count result"

German colleagues: "So what does it mean? War?"

Me: "amit-amit, jangan sampai kejadiaaaaannnn... :("

Orang asing aja tau

I was so proud when my boss, not an Indonesian and don't nor ever living in Indonesia, said this, "So, Rina, who do you support as the president for 2014? I like the tall and slim one (sorry Pak, hehehe). What is his name? The current Governor of Jakarta? He looks so genuine and so down to earth. I saw some news about the way he works too, very promising.."

Finally, it is no more about how difficult is doing business in Indonesia, or so much corruption, or difficulty in getting good people there. One more positive thing (other than how beauty the country is or high happiness index in Indonesia) was associated with us. We still have some hope....

Ps: Mimpi gue 'ga muluk-muluk. Cuma pengen punya presiden yang bisa memungkinkan gw ke kantor jalan kaki tanpa baju nyampe kantor jadi bau karena polusi :)